Gifts

Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us…                                                                                            Romans 12:6 (KJV)

This season I am listening to more Christmas music than in the past, trying to pump up the Christmas mood. In particular, I am listening to one of my favorite artists, Josh Groban. His powerful voice and seemingly effortless style put me in my mind of the gifts that he has been given as a singer.

As I listen, I think about how much talent he has, especially in relation to how little I have musically. I so appreciate his talent! I believe that Josh Groban also has a deep faith, and somehow this translates into how he delivers the beautiful gift of his voice, and interpretation of the music he sings.

We have been given, as the Bible says “gifts differing”. We cannot, and should not, try to compare to others the measure of gifts we have been given, but rather, we should develop those gifts to the fullest.  We need to recognize that we have all been given certain gifts from birth. It is our job develop them, and give them back to God, using them in the service of others.

So, whatever your gifts, and indeed you have them, you need to recognize them, attribute them appropriately as gifts from God, and use them in his service.

That is the gift that we give back to God.

Prayer: Thank you for the gifts that you give us. Help us to leverage them fully for your service, Amen

Joseph Shepherd Chapter 6

William Harvey was a man becoming known in scientific circles in Europe. He was studying the heart and blood, and challenging medical principles that had been accepted since Galen. Harvey was not one to shy away from criticism, and he did know how to play the political and power games so necessary for support of scientific pursuits. His brilliance was unquestioned, and he was also adept at winning friends, quite a profound combination of talents.

 “Captain Braden,” began Harvey, “how are you getting along today?” “I feel much better, Doctor,” said Braden. At this point, he was nearly back to his normal vigor. Harvey looked again at the purple splotches, which had almost completely disappeared. Harvey was sure that this man had suffered from plague, and he was also sure that he was recovering. “Amazing,” breathed Harvey, nearly inaudibly. “Captain Braden, you are one fortunate man. Whatever treatment you received is far above any medical procedure I know of short of a pure miracle.” “It was a miracle, Doctor,” said Braden. “It was.”

Still, Harvey did not want Braden exposed to the other passengers on the Elizabeth, so he told Captain Carr to continue the isolation. At the same time, Harvey told Carr that he could speak further with Braden to gather whatever information might be important to help the Elizabeth in her final leg home to England. Braden could offer only the sketchiest information to Carr about the location of the encounter with the pirates, but it was sufficient for Carr to help plot a course that could keep the Elizabeth clear of trouble.

Mr. North was confiding to Mr. Ross that he was glad the pirate victory was behind him. At this point, he was short on powder, had a damaged mainsail, and considered the possibility that plague was still on his ship. The sooner he reached Plymouth, the better he would feel. Besides, he could now return as a victorious ship captain. He would relate that Captain Braden had died of illness while on the cruise. His crew better damned well back up that story, and as for Shepherd and me, well, we could turn up dead too, as far as he figured. Just as he was turning over in his mind how this all could play out, Mr. Crowell, the lookout, barked, “Pirate ship to starboard!” “Another pirate ship?” screamed North. “Are you sure it isn’t a Spaniard?” North barked to Crowell.  “She flies nothing but a black flag!” screamed Crowell.

 North was puzzled, but began to be resigned to another fight. The second pirate ship had evidently been lurking near the first fray, unseen by the Intrepid in the excitement of the moment. The privateer probably had seen that the Intrepid had put forth a small boat some days earlier, and they may have surmised that this could mean mutiny. Mutinous ships made nice prey, since they could fold at the first sign of a real fight. At any rate, these pirates from North Africa were daring opportunists. They were willing to engage any ship that they believed could be in any way crippled. They had not failed to notice that the Intrepid’s crew was continuing to work on a mainsail, which never seemed to fully unfurl.

 The pirates began to close on the Intrepid, and North did not hesitate to respond. “Make ready to fight,” he screamed. Immediately, sailors began to race to the cannons, while others started to secure powder and shot from below. The sun was low on the horizon, and the setting sun silhouetted the Intrepid. The pirates were now closing fast, less than a thousand yards away. The pirate ship was a captured English ship, the Bristol, smaller than the Intrepid, but faster than the now crippled Intrepid.

North believed that the pirates would not attack into a broadside blast, but would drift to the rear of the Intrepid to pursue for boarding. North chose to use his slowed speed capability to his advantage. He ordered the sails tacked to slow the Intrepid, maintaining his starboard to the pirates as long as possible as they tried to creep behind his crippled vessel. He would, by God, get at least one broadside volley into the teeth of the pirates.

As the Intrepid slowed, the pirates found themselves closing too quickly on their prey. As the pirates steered to the south to get behind the Intrepid, they were going to be, for a brief time, starboard to starboard, the Intrepid facing north, the Bristol south. Just as the pirates started the turn south, North knew he had a window of opportunity. He ordered his men to fire when they heard his pistol shot. The pirates drew closer, and as they made the anticipated turn, North fired his pistol. The Intrepid’s entire starboard side erupted in fire as cannons discharged. The pirates were raked with a deadly volley of heavy shot.

 Screams could be heard as splintered wood flew into the air. Cursing pirates swore withering oaths at the Intrepid’s crew. The jib mast of the pirate ship cracked as it received a direct hit. The pirate captain apparently was undaunted by this first volley. He assessed the damage, and he found no other sail damage, some damage to the front deck, and the loss of four crewmen. The distance between the ships had saved the pirates. The pirate captain may also have realized that he was still vulnerable to another volley. Despite the distance, now about eight hundred yards, he ordered his men to fire a starboard volley of their own.

The pirate guns let loose with a roar. Inferior cannons on the Bristol yielded no hits on the Intrepid as the shots mostly fell harmlessly short. The Intrepid was now turning east, exposing another starboard approach to the Bristol, which was now running with its aft facing the Intrepid. Another volley of cannon fire belched from the Intrepid, but now from even closer range. Shots whistled past the Bristol, which had been outflanked by the Intrepid. Two cannon shots found their mark on the Bristol with devastating effect. The rear cabins, exposed to the murderous fire, caved in. A gaping hole in the Bristol, framed by shattered windows and shards of wood, stared at the Intrepid.

As the Bristol made no turn to return fire, Mr. North assessed his situation. The Intrepid had sustained no damage in the brief exchange, but she was low on powder. The earlier failure to secure the kegs below deck would now cause North to disengage from a fight he could easily win. His bluff of letting everything loose on two broadsides belied his low stock of powder and shot. The Intrepid had never been outfitted to fight on this maiden voyage. She was only to test out the equipment. She had surely done that under very trying circumstances, but she was not prepared for two extended battles. At the very moment of likely triumph, North gave the command to break off the fight and head north. The pirates, not sure of the Intrepid’s motives, nonetheless chose to continue south. Pirates generally did not prefer a fair fight with a healthy enemy. They much preferred trader ships, which could not put up a fight. A few well-placed shots by the Intrepid had convinced the pirates to seek easier prey. The Bristol continued to limp south, wounded by a superior enemy. As the Intrepid proceeded north, Mr. Shepherd and I discussed the brief but powerful encounter we had just witnessed from below deck. “Dr. Shepherd,” I said, “Mr. North is a savage scoundrel, but he is a fine fighting commander, I’ll give him that.” “Yes,” said Shepherd, “he has a gift of battle strategy. Too bad that talent is wasted on a man who cannot fully appreciate it.”  

“Peace Be With You…”

As I mentioned yesterday, I am reprinting the Christmas message that my brother Joe,               (Fr. Dennet) sent out this year.  I hope it gives you encouragement and peace as we approach Christmas.

“Peace be with you”, Family and Friends,

Not many of us have weathered these past ten months of 2020 without some bodily or emotional distress. We may not have been infected with the Covid 19 virus, but most of us have experienced the suffering of feeling the pain of losses others had to endure because of the pandemic. None of us have escaped the frustration of rampant social and political unrest, tensions in our States, and the recurring uneasiness among world powers in their relationships with one another. We may be tempted to hide behind our masks and crawl away from this harsh reality into a hideout of self-pity and whining pessimism. Thank God for Christmas and the ever- resonating message of hope and happiness it brings. God dwells not only among us but with us and within us! That is the Good News, the Gospel promise.

“Be not afraid’ is the powerful prescription from our Sacred Scriptures that gives us comfort. God is near; God is here! Let our lives be open to this promise of the Incarnation and embrace it, and let it be done to us as God wills. We can let this be the formula for our life choices – engaging in positive and cheerful conversations initiating hope-filled and compassionate relationships, offering optimistic perspectives in our day-to-day dialogues, living graciously and gratefully amid disappointments – thus bringing to all we meet the healing for which we all long. And all this with a smile!

Each one of us trying to be the Gospel message is the only effective way, as I see it, to change and heal the atmosphere of mistrust, fear, and incivility that along with the Covid virus is the pandemic that threatens to estrange us from one another and from God. “Let it be done to me as You say” and “not my will but Yours be done” are faith-filled and comforting prescriptions for living and witnessing fulfilling, joyful, and peace-generating lives. Not an easy challenge, but the message is worth embracing. May each of us be the Christmas gift that keeps on giving! May we become who we were made to be, sisters and brothers of the Word-Made-Flesh, disciples of the King of peace, and faithful companions on the journey of life. Merry Christmas!”

“When the Student is Ready…”

The student is not above the teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher                                   Luke 6:40 (NIV)

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” This oft-quoted proverb may have origins in an ancient Zen tradition, or it may have popped up in the 19th century. Like other intriguing quotes, we may not be able to cleanly trace the origin of it.

Whatever the origin, I like the quote. There is a truth to it that is not particularly mystical. It simply means that there are times when we are receptive to learning. Until that time, we will not see the truth of the matter. When we are ready to learn, there will be a person or situation who will verify that truth to us that we may have unconsciously pursued.

Pursuing the teacher, I think, is the key to learning. Desiring to always be learning is critical for us, no matter what our age. That takes certain virtues, like humility, patience, curiosity, and perhaps a few other qualities. Willingness to learn, and the wisdom to recognize that we do not have the complete corner on truth are qualities that enable such life-long learning.

I had a conversation recently with my oldest brother, Joe, known in his Franciscan Order as Father Dennet. He has lived many decades of life and he has doctorate level education, but he has more than education- he has wisdom. He is a life-long learner, and he shares with me that he continues to learn daily.

As the disciples of Jesus were said to have “walked in the dust of the Rabbi” because they followed him so closely, so too should we follow those teachers who may appear to us at any moment that we are ready to learn.

Tomorrow, I will share my brother’s Christmas letter, with his permission. It is a good one.

Prayer: Father, thank you for sending us teachers to learn of your Wisdom, Amen

“When You Pray, Move Your Feet”

John Lewis

The world is full of so-called prayer warriors who are prayer-ignorant. They’re full of formulas and programs and advice, peddling techniques for getting what you want from God. Don’t fall for that nonsense. This is your Father you are dealing with, and he knows better than you what you need. With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply. Like this: Our Father in heaven…                                     Matthew 6:7-9 (The Message)

Praying for other people is a right and proper thing to do, but often, the prayer is not complete without an action. There are several old proverbs about the idea of prayer and behavior. One of them, “You can’t pray without moving your feet” is a variation of an old West African proverb, “When you pray, move your feet”. That saying was used by civil rights icon John Lewis, who passed just this year.

What do these sayings mean? Surely one can pray effectively without moving one’s feet. Indeed, that is true in the technical sense. In the practical sense however, perhaps prayer is not really complete without an accompanying action.  For example, when we pray for health, we better be practicing some good habits of eating, exercise and sleep. When we pray for a good grade on that exam, we better have studied hard for it. When we pray for the job we applied for, we better be prepared for the interview and have practiced the skills needed for it.

In other words, prayer is not a magic incantation to make things just appear without us doing our part. When we pray for that person who is sick, we may need to complete that prayer with a note, a call, or bringing them a meal. When we pray for our elected leaders, we should also participate in good government by voting and contacting those legislators.

No, we cannot accompany every prayer with an action. Prayer is also recognition that God is in control of the things we are not. Sometimes, there is no action that we can do. Sometimes we just acknowledge that we are helpless in a situation. But let us not take the easy way and just say “I’ll pray about that”.

We need to do what we can do to accompany the prayers.

Prayer: Lord, you have given us the power and privilege of prayer. Help us to understand it and honor you with complete prayers, Amen

Just Do It

Dear friends, do you think you’ll get anywhere in this if you learn all the right words but never do anything? Does merely talking about faith indicate that a person really has it? For instance, you come upon an old friend dressed in rags and half-starved and say, “Good morning, friend! Be clothed in Christ! Be filled with the Holy Spirit!” and walk off without providing so much as a coat or a cup of soup—where does that get you? Isn’t it obvious that God-talk without God-acts is outrageous nonsense? James 2:14-17

“After all is said and done, more is said than done.”                                                                                                   Aesop

As a counselor who likes the action of positive behaviors to overcome faulty thinking, this quote has always been a favorite. We can say a lot of things, and we can think a lot of things, but putting those ideas into operation is the key.  For example, we can plan to do things, we can even worry about things, but failing to act upon thoughts and plans leaves us frustrated and sometimes even worse off in our anxiety or depression.

I believe that good behavior triumphs over faulty thinking. We can get lost in thoughts, especially negative thoughts. Putting ourselves into an action mode helps us to make things come into reality. Worrying about a personal problem can sometimes be diminished by helping to solve another person’s problem. Getting outside of our own worry by volunteering for a worthy community cause is a step of help in two directions- it gets me outside of my personal worry, and I help another person with their problem.

Our worries don’t go away simply because we took an action. However, by taking action, we gain control. We demonstrate that we can positively affect our mood with our actions.

Tomorrow, I discuss how this works in prayer. Stay tuned.

Prayer: Lord, you have given us minds and bodies to use for your glory. Help us to make sure that our actions match our intentions, Amen.

Visiting

Blessed be the Lord God of Israel; for he hath visited and redeemed his people,

 And hath raised up an horn of salvation for us in the house of his servant David;                                                    Luke 1:68-69 (KJV)

Maybe if you are like me, you are finding this Christmas season to be a bit of a challenge. It is a wonderful time of year, one where we remember that God visited the earth with the gift of his son.

Visiting. That is what I miss this year. We won’t be having our kids and grandkids over to our house as we have every year since they were born. Visiting others is a gift that we can take for granted- until we cannot do it. Yes, this Christmas season is a bit of a challenge.

So, this year, we need to make extra effort to find ways to celebrate. Maybe one way is the gift of giving to others. Many churches and non-profit groups are depending on gifts from the community to help fulfill their mission of serving others who are suffering or are going without.

My church, Ginghamsburg United Methodist Church, has traditionally challenged the congregation to give as much to the Christmas Miracle offering as they would spend on their own family. After all, as Pastor Mike Slaughter used to say, “Christmas is not your birthday!” The church will be helping to fund the non-profit organizations affiliated with the church which so greatly impact the community.

So, placing more thought and emphasis on such worthy giving is a good way to redeem some of the loss we feel in not being able to see many people that we traditionally visited.

Maybe it will help remind us of that great visit that Jesus made so that we can even celebrate the season!

Prayer: Lord, you visited the earth with the presence of your son- what a gift you gave! Amen

Diversity

Judah had Perez and Zerah (the mother was Tamar)                                                              Salmon had Boaz (his mother was Rahab),
Boaz had Obed (Ruth was the mother)                                                                                             David had Solomon (Uriah’s wife was the mother)

From Matthew 1 (The Message) and the genealogy of Jesus

Tamar came from Hebrew origins

Rahab came from Jericho (Palestine)

Uriah’s wife, was a Hittite, from (Phoenicia) Lebanon

Ruth came from Moab (Jordan)

I like to share this genealogy around Christmas, because it shows the true ethnic and geographic diversity of the lineage of Jesus. The women noted in this lineage of Jesus provided in Matthew’s genealogy were included for a reason. Matthew’s gospel is directed to the nascent Hebrew Christian group who were looking for the royal line of Jesus and an explanation of the connection with the kingly presence Jesus would represent.

The irony is that in that “royal bloodline” we see a diverse group of women from other cultures and religions. I am convinced that God loves the diversity he created, and he wants us to see that the savior he sent, his son Jesus, was indeed of royal lineage, but not from the kind that people had come to expect.

Jesus came from a line of women whose backgrounds were, to be kind, at least questionable. Their tribal origins were not of pure Hebrew religion and culture.  These women represented diverse world origins, religious and cultural differences that were significant.

So, in this season of celebrating the birth of Jesus, let us also celebrate that he is the savior for the whole world- Jew, Gentile, heathen, believer, non-believer.

 He came to save us all.

Prayer: Your plans are higher than our plans, and you delight in the diversity of your creation. Help us to do that better as well, Amen

Directions…

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.                                                                                                                                          Jeremiah 29:11 (The Message)

I have been a counselor for over 40 years, and over the years I have seen thousands of clients. I am in the profession because it is a calling for me, and I am fortunate to be able to practice what I love to do. As in many careers, I believe, the direction of my career has not always been a simple, straight path.

I began my career as a social worker in Montgomery County, Ohio, leaving my home in Cincinnati to take the job. It was not too long before I took a position at the Dayton Mental Health Center (now long since closed), and I began a journey of learning about mental health. After a few years there, I took a position at a community mental health center, at the time a new service delivery model for mental health in the 1970’s.

I did not have a clear-cut plan in mind regarding this career path. In looking back, it has become crystal clear to me that the hand of God was doing things for me that I could not do for myself. I had not carefully planned this path. Rather, opportunities showed up for me and I simply made a choice for the next job that seemed to be the right fit.

I had no idea when I started that I would be following a path that allowed me to use the gifts God had given me in the particular way that they unfolded. The way that some of these opportunities came about were clearly not coincidence.

I tell my clients that there does not need to be just one path to take that is God’s plan for us. As long as we set about to serve him and honor him in it, he can bless any path we choose. I have been completely blessed in my career, and yet, I did not set forth with a particular “plan” for that career.

The point is, if we honor God in whatever we do, he can bless it and give us joy in it, whatever that job or career is.

I trust that you are in that place of peace in your working life.  

Prayer: Thank you Father for giving us direction, even when we are not sure of the next step, Amen

Learning From Pain

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalm 46:10

“God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks to us in our consciences, but shouts in our pain”                                       C.S. Lewis

When do we learn? We learn when we are in pain. When we have come to the end of our own understanding and accept our inability to save ourselves. Such acceptance is a critical part of recovery thinking. It is also foundational in all learning, I think. Until we realize that we are not truly in charge of all that we want to control, we falsely believe that we can effect all the changes that we need.

If we have learned anything in 2020, it is that there are things that we cannot control. We can get angry about that (we have); we can try to control everything else in our lives, we can lash out and blame others, or we can accept that there is a spiritual solution for every problem. That is, if we know our place in the cosmos, we can thrive even during painful times.

God has given us tools to solve problems. Most recently, vaccines are coming on line to deal with the scourge of the novel Coronavirus. However, medical solutions are not the point of the learning. It is that we need to understand the things we can control, and the things we cannot control.

Our changed attitude about dealing with the Coronavirus is what we must learn. That our responses have missed the mark in many ways. That given an opportunity to sacrifice for the well-being of society, we came up short.

Yet, we learn, we survive, and we see that when we are not in control, God is. Never miss an opportunity to learn from pain. If we do not learn strong lessons from this 2020 suffering, that would be the real loss

Prayer: Father, help us to remember that you are in charge, and that you are the solution we seek, Amen