Just Do It

Dear friends, do you think you’ll get anywhere in this if you learn all the right words but never do anything? Does merely talking about faith indicate that a person really has it? For instance, you come upon an old friend dressed in rags and half-starved and say, “Good morning, friend! Be clothed in Christ! Be filled with the Holy Spirit!” and walk off without providing so much as a coat or a cup of soup—where does that get you? Isn’t it obvious that God-talk without God-acts is outrageous nonsense? James 2:14-17

“After all is said and done, more is said than done.”                                                                                                   Aesop

As a counselor who likes the action of positive behaviors to overcome faulty thinking, this quote has always been a favorite. We can say a lot of things, and we can think a lot of things, but putting those ideas into operation is the key.  For example, we can plan to do things, we can even worry about things, but failing to act upon thoughts and plans leaves us frustrated and sometimes even worse off in our anxiety or depression.

I believe that good behavior triumphs over faulty thinking. We can get lost in thoughts, especially negative thoughts. Putting ourselves into an action mode helps us to make things come into reality. Worrying about a personal problem can sometimes be diminished by helping to solve another person’s problem. Getting outside of our own worry by volunteering for a worthy community cause is a step of help in two directions- it gets me outside of my personal worry, and I help another person with their problem.

Our worries don’t go away simply because we took an action. However, by taking action, we gain control. We demonstrate that we can positively affect our mood with our actions.

Tomorrow, I discuss how this works in prayer. Stay tuned.

Prayer: Lord, you have given us minds and bodies to use for your glory. Help us to make sure that our actions match our intentions, Amen.

Visiting

Blessed be the Lord God of Israel; for he hath visited and redeemed his people,

 And hath raised up an horn of salvation for us in the house of his servant David;                                                    Luke 1:68-69 (KJV)

Maybe if you are like me, you are finding this Christmas season to be a bit of a challenge. It is a wonderful time of year, one where we remember that God visited the earth with the gift of his son.

Visiting. That is what I miss this year. We won’t be having our kids and grandkids over to our house as we have every year since they were born. Visiting others is a gift that we can take for granted- until we cannot do it. Yes, this Christmas season is a bit of a challenge.

So, this year, we need to make extra effort to find ways to celebrate. Maybe one way is the gift of giving to others. Many churches and non-profit groups are depending on gifts from the community to help fulfill their mission of serving others who are suffering or are going without.

My church, Ginghamsburg United Methodist Church, has traditionally challenged the congregation to give as much to the Christmas Miracle offering as they would spend on their own family. After all, as Pastor Mike Slaughter used to say, “Christmas is not your birthday!” The church will be helping to fund the non-profit organizations affiliated with the church which so greatly impact the community.

So, placing more thought and emphasis on such worthy giving is a good way to redeem some of the loss we feel in not being able to see many people that we traditionally visited.

Maybe it will help remind us of that great visit that Jesus made so that we can even celebrate the season!

Prayer: Lord, you visited the earth with the presence of your son- what a gift you gave! Amen

Diversity

Judah had Perez and Zerah (the mother was Tamar)                                                              Salmon had Boaz (his mother was Rahab),
Boaz had Obed (Ruth was the mother)                                                                                             David had Solomon (Uriah’s wife was the mother)

From Matthew 1 (The Message) and the genealogy of Jesus

Tamar came from Hebrew origins

Rahab came from Jericho (Palestine)

Uriah’s wife, was a Hittite, from (Phoenicia) Lebanon

Ruth came from Moab (Jordan)

I like to share this genealogy around Christmas, because it shows the true ethnic and geographic diversity of the lineage of Jesus. The women noted in this lineage of Jesus provided in Matthew’s genealogy were included for a reason. Matthew’s gospel is directed to the nascent Hebrew Christian group who were looking for the royal line of Jesus and an explanation of the connection with the kingly presence Jesus would represent.

The irony is that in that “royal bloodline” we see a diverse group of women from other cultures and religions. I am convinced that God loves the diversity he created, and he wants us to see that the savior he sent, his son Jesus, was indeed of royal lineage, but not from the kind that people had come to expect.

Jesus came from a line of women whose backgrounds were, to be kind, at least questionable. Their tribal origins were not of pure Hebrew religion and culture.  These women represented diverse world origins, religious and cultural differences that were significant.

So, in this season of celebrating the birth of Jesus, let us also celebrate that he is the savior for the whole world- Jew, Gentile, heathen, believer, non-believer.

 He came to save us all.

Prayer: Your plans are higher than our plans, and you delight in the diversity of your creation. Help us to do that better as well, Amen

Directions…

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.                                                                                                                                          Jeremiah 29:11 (The Message)

I have been a counselor for over 40 years, and over the years I have seen thousands of clients. I am in the profession because it is a calling for me, and I am fortunate to be able to practice what I love to do. As in many careers, I believe, the direction of my career has not always been a simple, straight path.

I began my career as a social worker in Montgomery County, Ohio, leaving my home in Cincinnati to take the job. It was not too long before I took a position at the Dayton Mental Health Center (now long since closed), and I began a journey of learning about mental health. After a few years there, I took a position at a community mental health center, at the time a new service delivery model for mental health in the 1970’s.

I did not have a clear-cut plan in mind regarding this career path. In looking back, it has become crystal clear to me that the hand of God was doing things for me that I could not do for myself. I had not carefully planned this path. Rather, opportunities showed up for me and I simply made a choice for the next job that seemed to be the right fit.

I had no idea when I started that I would be following a path that allowed me to use the gifts God had given me in the particular way that they unfolded. The way that some of these opportunities came about were clearly not coincidence.

I tell my clients that there does not need to be just one path to take that is God’s plan for us. As long as we set about to serve him and honor him in it, he can bless any path we choose. I have been completely blessed in my career, and yet, I did not set forth with a particular “plan” for that career.

The point is, if we honor God in whatever we do, he can bless it and give us joy in it, whatever that job or career is.

I trust that you are in that place of peace in your working life.  

Prayer: Thank you Father for giving us direction, even when we are not sure of the next step, Amen

Learning From Pain

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalm 46:10

“God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks to us in our consciences, but shouts in our pain”                                       C.S. Lewis

When do we learn? We learn when we are in pain. When we have come to the end of our own understanding and accept our inability to save ourselves. Such acceptance is a critical part of recovery thinking. It is also foundational in all learning, I think. Until we realize that we are not truly in charge of all that we want to control, we falsely believe that we can effect all the changes that we need.

If we have learned anything in 2020, it is that there are things that we cannot control. We can get angry about that (we have); we can try to control everything else in our lives, we can lash out and blame others, or we can accept that there is a spiritual solution for every problem. That is, if we know our place in the cosmos, we can thrive even during painful times.

God has given us tools to solve problems. Most recently, vaccines are coming on line to deal with the scourge of the novel Coronavirus. However, medical solutions are not the point of the learning. It is that we need to understand the things we can control, and the things we cannot control.

Our changed attitude about dealing with the Coronavirus is what we must learn. That our responses have missed the mark in many ways. That given an opportunity to sacrifice for the well-being of society, we came up short.

Yet, we learn, we survive, and we see that when we are not in control, God is. Never miss an opportunity to learn from pain. If we do not learn strong lessons from this 2020 suffering, that would be the real loss

Prayer: Father, help us to remember that you are in charge, and that you are the solution we seek, Amen

Delayed Gratification

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.                                                       Hebrews 11:1 (KJV)

Delayed gratification, or deferred gratification, describes the process that the subject undergoes when the subject resists the temptation of an immediate reward in preference for a later reward. Generally, delayed gratification is associated with resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later                                                                                                                                             Wikipedia

Delayed gratification, as described above, is known to be a character quality associated with success, career accomplishment, and living a disciplined life. It allows us to do the current hard things in order to reap rewards not yet available. All of us have experienced the tensions involved with delayed gratification. We have experienced things like diets for weight loss, or the sacrifices made to work our way through college, or saving up for that special needed or wanted item, like a car.

There was a classic study done nearly 50 years ago (much simplified in this brief explanation) involving 4 and 5 year- olds who had a marshmallow placed in front of them with the instruction that if they could hold off and not eat the marshmallow, they would get 2 marshmallows when the experimenter came back into the room. Some of the children were able to wait for the reward of 2 marshmallows, and some were not. Follow-up studies years later indicated that the children who had been able to delay gratification seemed to fare better later in life in such areas as higher SAT scores, and more social and economic success.

This made me think about our current sacrifices for the COVID pandemic. If we can envision the future rewards of a defeated virus, and a return to all the things that we cherish, it might be easier to sacrifice present pleasures for future reward. Doing the hard things now will help ensure that future. Here’s hoping that most people will hold out for the future rewards by making present sacrifices.

Or, we can just eat the marshmallow…

Prayer: Lord, give us strength to envision a future that we cannot presently see, Amen.

Perspective on COVID

We who have run for our very lives to God have every reason to grab the promised hope with both hands and never let go.                                                                                                                                                   Hebrews 6:18 (The Message)

I was talking with a client the other day about COVID-19, and its role in exacerbating her anxiety. I assured her that other clients- many others- are experiencing huge increases in anxiety because of the pervasive COVID pandemic. She felt some small level of relief that she was not alone in this phenomenon, as I normalized the pain of this shared experience. I also talked with her about her need for perspective in a time when anxiety often precludes rational perspective. I discussed the need to look at what life might look like in 6 months. It is reasonable to expect that a fairly large number of people will have had the opportunity to receive a vaccination for the virus. In other words, help truly is on the way. Unfortunately, anxiety often robs us of rational planning and perspective. Anxiety colors everything with a negativity that is unexplainable.

I showed her a visual example. I put my hand directly in front of my eyes so that all I could see was my hand. As I slowly moved my hand away from my eyes, I could see things around it. I had gained perspective. COVID anxiety sometimes robs us of that perspective.

We are inundated with bad news about the growing number of cases, hospitalizations, and deaths. Yet, we must be able to get perspective on this. Certainly, we must continue to practice prudent measures- masks, distance and hygiene. Yet, in 6 months, the landscape will look different. Widespread vaccinations will be mitigating the hazards of COVID-19, and this awful virus will recede into history as a bad chapter. It will still be part of our history, but it will not dictate our daily activities.

So, perspective is critical. Yes, we need to be patient as we await the help that is on the way. But be certain, help is on the way.

Prayer: Father, we trust in your provision, and the perspective of hope. You have given us the tools to help protect us. Thank you for your hand of provision through those whom you have gifted, Amen

Joseph Shepherd

Chapter 5

 Captain Braden had been afloat for almost four days when an English merchant ship came upon his tiny craft. Braden was quite ill when he was spotted by the Elizabeth, a ship owned by the British East India Company on her way back from a journey to Italy. The Elizabeth was laden with wine and olive oil, but more fortunate for Captain Braden was the fact that the Elizabeth also carried a passenger who was returning from a scholarly mission to Padua where he had been studying with Italian scientists, (heretofore usually called natural philosophers) about anatomy and the properties of human blood. William Harvey had always had an interest in medicine, and he was excited about the latest discoveries, which were leading him to radical (and unpopular) ideas about anatomy. As the Elizabeth came upon Braden’s boat, the crew saw that he was an English Captain. Braden was too weak to call out for help, but he managed to wave to the approaching Elizabeth. The crew of the Elizabeth was not used to seeing such a sight as a small boat floating on the calm waters off the coast of Spain.

 Word quickly spread through the Elizabeth that a small boat with one survivor had been spotted. Rumors of this man being the lone survivor of a shipwreck quickly spread through the ship. As Captain Braden was helped aboard the Elizabeth he was very weak. He was taken to the quarters below deck and William Harvey was asked to examine him. Captain Braden was able to relate to William Harvey that he had not been part of a shipwreck, but that he was Captain of the HMS Intrepid, and that he had been deposed in a mutiny.

As Harvey continued his examination of Captain Braden he noticed some faint splotches of purple on his thighs. He also noted that Braden had some swelling in his neck and armpits. Harvey had some suspicions about these symptoms, but he was more concerned over the fact that Braden was weak, pale and dehydrated. “He will need rest,” said Harvey. “He cannot be subjected to interrogation about his current state of affairs.” Harvey felt that his patient would be able to relate his tale of woe in good time, but a stream of inquisitors would be of great harm at this time. Besides, he was not so sure that people should be exposed to this man with an unknown illness. All the while, he pondered the symptoms he saw in the curious survivor.

 On the Intrepid, Dr. Shepherd and I began to examine the men who had started to show symptoms of illness. As we approached the suffering sailors my heart sank. The plague had indeed been visited upon the Intrepid. I began to believe that this ship truly was cursed, and that God had somehow singled us out for destruction of the fiercest type. Any of the men on the ship would much rather die in battle than die the horrible death of the invisible plague. Yet, these men would have no chance for battle. They would die gasping for breath, their skin having turned almost black, and their bodies covered with terrible purple buboes. Worse still, the rest of the crew would panic, and general disorder would rule this renegade vessel until the entire ship became a ghost ship.

As my mind raced far ahead to this terrible scenario, Mr. Shepherd turned to me and asked how I would treat these men. I had seen people bled as treatment for the plague, but I had never seen much success from it. Perhaps it hurried death for them, so, in an odd way, it helped them to cheat the awful Black Death. I had also seen mercury compounds used, but also to little avail. Supportive measures which helped to comfort the patient seemed to have, at best, a palliative effect. “I have several ideas, Dr. Shepherd, but no answers,” I replied honestly. Shepherd then began to tell me of the way he had treated Captain Braden. Not treated, really, but how he had ministered to him. Shepherd said that Captain Braden was a religious man, and that, as he believed he was near death, he asked to have someone administer communion to him. No one else being present, Shepherd had taken it upon himself to give “communion” to Captain Braden. Shepherd reported that he had just fed the Captain some of the stale, moldy bread, and that he used the same bread as “communion elements,” along with a cup of rum. While these were no ordinary communion elements that I had ever heard of, it had given comfort to a dying man. If communion were of any value or not, I do not know, but there is value in making death more peaceful. “Are you suggesting that we give a religious service, Mr. Shepherd?” I asked whimsically. “No,” said Shepherd. “I scarcely think that religion is very well known on this ship. But I do suggest that we use the bread to feed to the sick crew. Who knows but that some healing may have come to Captain Braden from it? Besides, we have no real treatment other than the supportive measures you had suggested.”

 Shepherd was correct about the sorry state we were in. “Well, Dr. Shepherd,” I said, “let us give them your bread.” Shepherd went to fetch the remaining bread left in his pouch. It was covered with mold – most unpleasant to look at. As Shepherd removed the last part of the loaf from his pouch, he broke it and said some sort of prayer. He then went to each man who was sick, and fed him a bit of the bread. He also gave them a bit of rum, duplicating the methods he used with Captain Braden. The men were weak and desperate, and they did not question this odd medical care. They ate and then seemed to slip off into a coma. “Their fate, and ours, now seems to be in the hands of your God,” I said to Shepherd. “That is all we can ever hope for,” replied Shepherd.

Captain North was feeling uncomfortable with the latest turn of events. He knew that plague was on his ship, and if word got out among the rest of the crew, he might not be able to retain control. He wanted to make for the nearest port, and he needed to do that while his crew remained healthy. He decided to sail immediately toward Plymouth. He figured that with good weather, he could reach port in less than two weeks, perhaps ten days.

 On the Elizabeth, Captain Braden was slowly recovering. The commander of the Elizabeth, Edwin Carr, asked to speak to Captain Braden to inquire about his story. Mutinies on English warships were unsettling for merchant seamen. They depended on English rule of the seas, and anything that eroded this mastery posed a threat. Was this Braden a fraud? Or was he such a poor leader that he was dumped by his crew? What leads sailors to do such a thing? Discipline on a ship is imperative, and Carr wanted to know exactly what had happened. Captain Braden relayed his story. He explained his illness, his care by Dr. Greene and the stranger Joseph Shepherd, and the encounter with the pirates off La Coruna’s coast in Spain. He was not at all sure of the details of that attack, but he knew that the Intrepid had repulsed them.

 Carr was most interested in the thing Braden knew least about – the existence of pirates near where he would be sailing in the coming week. William Harvey was interested in Braden for another reason. He believed that Captain Braden had the bubonic plague, yet he appeared to be gaining strength, not dying. Harvey asked Braden about his treatment. “I know very little about how I was treated,” said Braden, “only that I was treated with great kindness. I remember eating some stale bread, moldy bread. Moldy bread and rum. That is all I remember before being set adrift by Mr. North – the scoundrel!” “So was there plague on your ship?” asked Harvey. “Plague!” said Braden. “You think I have the plague?” Braden knew that the plague had ravaged London in 1606, the last major outbreak in England. He knew nothing of the plague on his ship. “I don’t know, Captain,” said Harvey, “but I see some signs in your body of the disease. Strangely, though, you seem to be recovering, and I was interested in what type of treatment you received.” Harvey went to Captain Edwin Carr to inform him of his observations. He cautioned Carr to isolate Captain Braden until he could see the progress of his disease. No need to expose the rest of the crew to disease just because they had been good Samaritans.

 Joseph Shepherd and I were concerned about our patients. We believed that other sailors may be stricken, and we anxiously awaited the response of the men we had “treated” with such odd methods. Within two days we had our response. The men we had treated were rousing out of their lethargy. Fevers were down, swelling was down, and they asked for something to eat. They too were recovering! I asked Mr. Shepherd about the treatment. “Tell me, my good Dr. Shepherd, how did you learn of this treatment? It is nothing short of a miracle! Indeed, moldy bread and rum. Sailors eat that often at sea. Imagine that healing people of a dread disease.” Shepherd responded by saying, “Dr. Greene, don’t you recall stories in the Bible about Jesus using his own spittle to restore sight to the blind? Sometimes the most common of elements can be used in uncommon ways. God can use anything for his purpose, even a talking ass to Balaam, lamps to Gideon…”

“Enough, enough!” I said to Shepherd, smiling. “I suppose you could give me many examples from the Bible. You obviously know much more of that book than I.” “I did not mean to belittle you,” said Shepherd. “I simply meant to say that God heals; we simply provide our hands to Him.” “Perhaps God can tell us how we can save ourselves in the coming days,” I countered, a bit irritated with the talk of God. Honestly, Mr. Shepherd spoke like he knew God personally. This was more than a little disconcerting to me, and it would be of no help at all with a tyrant like Mr. North. North would only keep us alive as long as he believed that we could keep his crew healthy. Long enough to reach Plymouth – that was all he needed.

As I was talking to Mr. Shepherd, Seaman Kelley came limping into our quarters. He looked remarkably well considering his injuries in the past week. Often, sailors with such injuries survive the initial injury only to succumb to killing infections within a few days. “Mr. Kelley,” I hailed him, “you look well.” “Well?” he said. “My leg hurts like hell’s fire!” “Mr. Kelley,” I chided, “you are then fortunate to feel hell’s fire while still alive. Many sailors with your injury face life with one leg, then find hell itself after infection kills them. Perhaps,” I added, “you could thank the good Dr. Shepherd for your life and your limb!” “I beg your pardon, Dr. Greene,” he said. “You and Shepherd done your jobs with me, didn’t you?” “Yes, Mr. Kelley, we did our jobs.

God Carriers

“I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.” Then the angel left her.                                                                                                                                                                                       Luke 1:38

In yesterday’s blog, I talked about the unique use of the word “grace” (charitoo) used only twice in the Bible. Once it was used as the word to describe the grace given to Mary when she assented to accepting the role of “God carrier” from the angel who declared her to be the vessel to carry Jesus into the world. The other instance is when Paul told the Ephesian believers that they had that same grace to carry the message of healing to a broken world. So, I think we have established that this seems to be a unique calling that we have, akin to Mary’s role as giving birth to the Savior.

It also struck me that Mary had a say in this. This was not some edict that God enforced on Mary. While she had been set apart for this important mission, she did have a decision to make. She did not need to sign up for this assignment that was fraught with pain, anxiety and uncertainty. She could have said “No”.

But Mary did not say no. Because of that, we have a wonderful plan, an unsurpassed story that we celebrate every year. Mary agreed to be the human host of the “Lamb of God”.

So too do we have a say in our part of the plan of being “God carriers”. We can agree to it and bear the costs attendant with it, as well as the rewards of it. Mary’s agreement was the start of God’s plan of redeeming his lost sheep. Our agreement keeps that legacy going forward.

Prayer: Every day we have the opportunity to say “Yes” to your plan. Give us continued grace to do so, Amen.

The Grace of Christmas

And coming in, he said to her, “Greetings, favored one! The Lord is with you.”                                                          Luke 1:28

…to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved. Ephesians 1:6

I do so love the Christmas season! The story of Christmas is so rich and so deep that it cannot really be understood unless one understands the nature of God- as the one who loves us and wants to give his very best to us. That is why he sent his son, Jesus into the world.

We start with a miracle. The miracle of incarnation. Literally, we understand incarnation as  –“a central Christian doctrine that God became flesh, that God assumed a human nature and became a man in the form of Jesus Christ, the Son of God and the second person of the Trinity. … (Oxford Dictionary)

That, of course, is a miracle of the highest order, and it is central to Christian belief. The announcement of the angel to young Mary, a virgin, is found in Luke chapter 1, staring at verse 26. He went on to tell her that she was highly favored, and that she would be giving birth to the Savior, son of the Most-High God. She was literally to be a “God-carrier”.

In the next few blogs, I want to discuss her role as God-carrier. More importantly, I want to discuss our role as “God-carriers”. You see, the very same word that the angel used to describe Mary to tell her of her mission to carry Jesus into a broken world, is used by Paul in Ephesians as he speaks to young believers in that city. That Greek word for grace, (pronounced “charitoo”), is used only one other time in the Bible, and it is used to describe those who accept the mission of spreading grace to a broken world in Ephesians 1:6. So, we have the same role as being carriers of grace to a broken world.

 I will be talking more about this in coming days. Stay tuned.

Prayer: Father, you have chosen us for a mission that we are unable to do without your incredible gift to us, Amen.