Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ Galatians 6:2
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” David W. Augsburger
I was recently discussing with a client the idea of being heard and being understood. She was concerned that she was not feeling empathy from people with whom she was sharing from her heart. We talked about what gave her the impression of actually being heard. It is a hard concept to nail down, because it is a subjective feeling. Yet, there are some practical things to consider here.
One aspect of a good listener is their use of words that elicit more sharing. Phrases like “tell me more about that” can be helpful ways to bring out people and let them feel that their ideas and thoughts matter, and that the hearer is truly interested. This, accompanied by good eye contact, nods as appropriate, and other facial expressions which indicate connection, are crucial as well.
Indeed, all the tips about listening are hollow without true caring and concern by the listener. Giving our time and attention to others, especially in their time of need is a sacrificial act. As we know, there is not love without sacrifice, and listening with intent and care is a loving act, a sacrifice shown by time and attention.
Prayer: Lord, thank you for the plan to bear one another’s burdens as a discipline of our faith, Amen
Reflections of a Counselor 