“Being Married to Me…”

You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.                                                                                                                               Matthew 7:5

I was recently speaking with a couple in marriage counseling, and I saw that one partner was essentially taking the position, ‘if my wife could get the help she needs for her problems, our marriage would be fine’.

So, do you see the problem here? I explained that each partner needs to take ownership of personal deficits, limitations, harsh words, etc. Only if we look at our own behavior can we get to a solution in relationships. In fact, I posed this question to each – consider this, “what would it be like to be married to me?”

I suppose that a fairly clueless person, or one who was in denial might say, “Boy, being married to me would be a great experience!” A more considered response might be “Well, I suppose that it might be a bit of a challenge at times being married to me”.

So, that’s the word for today. Jesus called it “taking the log out of your own eye”. Jesus had a way with words…

Prayer: Lord, help me see the log in my own eye, Amen