I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well Psalm 139:14
I had a discussion the other day with a client about self-worth. This client had struggled for much of his life with pleasing other people to get their approval. He had gotten the message early in life that the approval of others was the key to feeling good about himself. His worth was being determined by the reactions and behaviors of those outside himself.
As we discussed this further, I assured him that this is something common to all. Everyone wants affection and approval to some degree, especially from those people important to us. However, we need to cling to the truth that our worth is not determined by that approval of others. We have inherent worth and unwavering love from our Creator. Yes, the affection we receive from others is critically important to our emotional health, but while it is necessary, it is not sufficient to sustain us.
Healthy self-love is critical so that we can accept ourselves- our strengths, weaknesses, faults and quirks; our accomplishments, failures- the whole package that makes us. We need to remember that ultimately, we need that self-acceptance to maintain our emotional health.
We need the truth and reminder that we are made in God’s image, loved by him, and never rejected.
Prayer: Lord, you have made us in your image, loved and accepted by you. Help us to truly appreciate this gift, Amen