Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. I Peter 5:7
Do you know a control freak? I do.
I bet you are one too. Don’t be alarmed about that. Wanting control of situations in our life is natural, and indeed it can be healthy. Strong, regular disciplines help to give us a sense of control. I can control my attitudes, my behaviors and my feelings. I am responsible for those things about me, and I need to control them.
But I cannot control yours, and that is where the rub often happens. When we try to control things that are NOT under our control, we get into trouble. We worry, we get angry, then we become more anxious. The art, of course, is knowing what we can control and what we cannot control.
I can’t tell you how often I have heard someone complain about another person in their relationship who is a “control freak”. Well guess what- we all are. Having control helps to lower anxiety- the more anxiety that is felt, the higher need for a sense of control. Ambiguity and surprises do not help people who have anxiety. They want predictability and control. I say, control everything that you reasonably can, but what you cannot control, you pray about. God then takes it from there.
So fellow control freaks, control all the things that are reasonably under your control, and let go of the rest- the stuff out of your control- to God’s provision and plan.
Prayer: Lord, give us the wisdom to know what we can and cannot control, then the wisdom to turn things over to you, Amen