A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance Proverbs 28:13 (Living Bible)
I often listen to sports talk shows when I do my morning walk. I find it interesting that when coaches, and athletes who compete at a high level, are interviewed they often make this comment: “I don’t remember all the games, but I sure remember those losses.”
I find this interesting, and sad, but true. We often cannot let go of those losses- those bad decisions, mistakes, failures that seem to occupy more space in our head than they ought. I suppose there can be some silver lining for this somehow, but it seems that if we do not acknowledge those issues, they can overtake us.
All of us can remember mistakes and failures that we would like to forget. Sometimes, we just have to face those unhappy memories, live a bit in the lamenting of them, then file them away for another day. Like I have said in the past, we can visit those places, but we don’t have to live there.
I have found that embracing those memories when they come up, rather than trying to suppress or avoid them, is probably the healthiest way to deal with them. They will never just “go away”, so we must find a way to have peace with them, acknowledging them as traveling partners, however unwanted they may be.
I think by acknowledging those moments, we find a way to control them, rather than allowing those unhappy memories to control us. After all, failures and mistakes need not define us, they are just part of the journey.
Oh, and by the way, finding a way to forgive ourselves for those failures and mistakes is a pretty good idea too…
Prayer: Lord, you have given us the gift of memories, and it is a wonderful gift. Help us to manage those memories for our good, Amen