It’s Not About the Pizza

Since you have been chosen by God who has given you this new kind of life, and because of his deep love and concern for you, you should practice tenderhearted mercy and kindness to others                        Colossians 3:12

 I was talking with a couple in a counseling session a few weeks ago, and the husband mentioned that when the couple ordered pizza for the family, his wife sometimes really didn’t consider his request for the kind of pizza they would order. She would order what the kids had asked for, but sometimes didn’t include him in what he would like. She may have assumed that she knew what he liked, or perhaps she thought that he didn’t care enough to speak up, so she just made a decision.  

A little thing to be sure. But he took it as another reminder that she wasn’t considering his needs or wants. Indeed, with this couple, there had been an emotional disconnect that is far more than about pizza. We talked about this situation, and it gave us the opportunity to discuss those issues that were underneath the little pizza situation.

Studies show that when couples practice simple kindness to one another- just showing courtesy and polite behavior- that behavior goes a very long way in increasing couple satisfaction. Yes, people can take each other for granted, and we all are guilty at one time or another of doing that, but those small kindnesses become big things over time. Practicing politeness and courtesy to one another seems like a little thing. But remember, “it’s not about the pizza”.

Prayer: Lord, keep us always mindful of those whom we hold dear so that we can display that love regularly, Amen

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