Fear of Fear

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself…”                                                                                                     Franklin Delano Roosevelt

God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love                                                                                             I John 4:17-18

I recently had a client who was auditioning for a part in a movie. He explained to me that his anxiety was very high, and it adversely affected his performance. I talked with him about the experience as we processed ways to handle that in the future. It is a facet of anxiety that I have discussed in this blog before. Anxiety is typically irrational, self-defeating, and at times overwhelming. The irony of course is this- my client’s fear of losing his lines CAUSED him to lose his lines!

In this way, anxiety can be the self-fulfilling prophecy that seems to have a life of its own, and a goal of defeating our desires. Once my client and I went over some of the specifics of what happened, we came up with a game plan for future auditions. The game plan included making sure that he went for the next audition, and that he did not let the anxiety win. His behavior- his determination and discipline- would carry the day. We both knew he could do it if he had the strategy to deal with the anxiety when it showed up. Yes, we were pretty sure it would show up, so I wanted him to be prepared WHEN it showed up.

Anxiety is our unwanted traveling partner. My suggestion to the client was to recognize that this traveling partner would not go away, but that he could take control of it, manage it, and find a way to make it a motivator, not an enemy.

Prayer: Lord, you have given us all the tools to overcome fear, Amen

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