The 3 Questions

A person finds joy in giving an apt reply—
    and how good is a timely word!                                                                                                         Proverbs 15:23

One of the types of homework that I often give to clients, that is my “couples clients”, is the “3 Questions”.  I find that many couples, in their busy schedules, often do not spend intentional time together. Sometimes, they just need a specific plan and format to connect with one another, so I give them this simple formula.

They are to set aside 15 minutes every day for one another. During that time, they are to ask one another, in this order, the 3 questions. Those questions are: “What is the best thing that happened to you today?”  “What was your biggest challenge today?” “Where did you see God today?”

This simple exercise can get the couple connected on a more than surface level, and it can be done in a minimum of time. Of course, they are allowed to spend more than 15 minutes on this, and I hope they do, but the regular intentional decision to connect is really the important thing.

I add that if they feel like they can hold hands and briefly pray together, so much the better. In this way, they have connected physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

So, the exercise is simple, but the hard part is being intentional and disciplined about doing it. If they do this every day for a week, it can become a habit. And, as they say in the recovery community- it works if you work it.

Prayer: Lord, you have made us communicating people. Help us to be intentional with those whom we love to connect daily and deeply, Amen