It’s Not About You

If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.                                                                                                       Philippians 2:1-4 (The Message)

Self-Disclosure Relieves others by normalizing an event or showing that there is hope for resolutionThis is the ability to reveal self-information appropriately for the benefit of another. This is a delicate decision because one must self disclose, not for the benefit of receiving pity, or to acquire honor, but rather is an apple of gold fitly spoken (Proverbs 25:11) to give comfort and healing to the hearer. The caregiver must have the sensitivity and GENTLENESS to discern the proper time and way to self- disclose to show understanding and care.

This characteristic of leadership and care giving is about the place for Self-Disclosure. This means something a little different to counselors because there are ethical considerations for the amount of self-disclosure we employ in helping our clients. Self-disclosure can be a helpful and practical tool in helping another by sharing a deep knowledge of a shared type of experience. However, there should be real caution in sharing too much, and for what reasons that might cross the border from professional relationship to “friend”. So, this technique must be used with care and caution, always with the mind-set of “for whose benefit am I sharing this?”

Certainly, there is a place for self-disclosure, and obviously, in a friendship, there is the expectation of self-disclosure. However, in professional situations, some careful consideration of personal information must be considered.

Prayer: Lord you would have us to care for one another with thought and gentleness. Thank you for all the tools of the Spirit that you provide, Amen

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