Now that same day two of them were going to a village called Emmaus, about seven miles from Jerusalem. They were talking with each other about everything that had happened.  As they talked and discussed these things with each other, Jesus himself came up and walked along with them;but they were kept from recognizing him.  He asked them, “What are you discussing together as you walk along?”

The whole passage is found in Luke 24:13-35

One of the passages of the Bible that to me is truly instructive of positive and healing interaction with people is the story of Jesus on the road to Emmaus. This took place right after his resurrection. He encountered Cleopas and his traveling partner (probably the writer of the story, Luke) as they were walking together, dejected after the death of Jesus. They had not heard that Jesus was risen, so they were very dispirited and grieving.

As they walked along, they were joined by a fellow traveler- Jesus- yet they did not recognize him at the time. Jesus inquired about their state of mind, knowing that they were grieving. We see in the answer of Cleopas that he displayed the irritability of those who are grieving. He responded to Jesus by essentially saying (in my poetic license of modern-day response) “Man how could you miss what happened here in the last week? What’s wrong with you!”

Jesus let him go on to explain how he felt. Jesus could have said to him “Your troubles are over, it’s me, Jesus, I arose from the dead!” But of course, Jesus did not. He let Cleopas talk to express his pain. Jesus kept Cleopas talking as they went along. He later explained to Cleopas why all these events had happened so that the redemption story could be fully played out. Jesus became the one who comforted them with the truth. Jesus stayed with them, and in due time, revealed himself to them- when they were ready for it.

Jesus was the master at knowing people, knowing what they needed, and then how to give them that complete and satisfying answer to their needs.

Great mental health principles in the Bible don’t you think?

Prayer: Lord, you have given us Jesus, the great healer and friend, Amen

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost

For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.                                                                                                                                        I Corinthians 13:12

I had a discussion with a client the other day about the roads we did not take in life. We all have decisions that we make every day, and some are more impactful than others. Truthfully, all are important. We talked about decisions he had made- roads traveled- that have brought him into this place in his life.

We both began to wonder, “what about those roads we did not take?” Indeed, there were some paths that we chose somewhat unwittingly. Some, where clearly God had laid out for us directions of which we could not possibly have known the ultimate impact.

Sometimes we call it luck, and the truth is, chance does play a part sometimes. Often, we have been led on paths where we simply took the next step, and God went ahead and paved the road for us. Sometimes, one little step in the wrong direction may have derailed our whole life. Simple decisions- that is they seemed simple at the time- may have changed the course of our entire life.

It is good to reflect back on how God intervened in places where we could not have known the ultimate outcome. My belief is that if we look back closely, we can see an invisible hand that guides us even when we don’t know it is there.

Prayer: Lord, thank you for directing my path, even when I did not see your hand in it, Amen

He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed.                                  Proverbs 3:34

Just a brief note on the passing of Pope Francis last week. He was a simple, humble, yet profound man, leader of the largest group of Christians in the world, and underappreciated in his time. He opted for simple things, favored the poor and marginalized, and emulated his namesake Francis of Assisi.

We do not truly appreciate the great among us while they are alive, and I expect that this is a typical human trait. Maybe we feel freer to lionize people after their death. Perhaps we do not really recognize greatness until it is passed. Such a shame.

I will have more to say on Pope Francis later, but for now- we already miss you.

Prayer: Lord, we thank you for the life and witness of Pope Francis, your beloved son, Amen

God guards you from every evil, he guards your very life. He guards you when you leave and when you return, he guards you now, he guards you always                                   Psalm 121:7-8

Do you feel protected? When I read this verse, I wasn’t so sure that we always feel protected. We go through times in life when we feel especially unprotected. There are times, I’m sure, that my readers have felt this way. Indeed, you may feel that way right now. You may be going through a physical, emotional or spiritual challenge where you are feeling unprotected, or even unseen by God. I think this is a common, even expected response at times in our life. Yet, when we think about it, if we did not have ultimate protection from God, where could we turn?

We are being protected by our immune system, by the ozone layer in our atmosphere, by our frontline workers such as police and firefighters, by physicians and healthcare workers, and by certain governmental institutions. We are being protected by friends, family, and at times even strangers.  

Finally, we are being protected by unseen spiritual beings- angels if you will- in ways we do not understand. Yes, it does not always feel like we are being protected, but indeed, the protection we have, seen and unseen, is real and is part of God’s provision for us.

Prayer: Lord, we trust in your provision for us, both seen and unseen, Amen

You cleared the ground and tilled the soil, and we took root and filled the land.                 Psalm 80:9

I dug up this old piece which I had written for a newspaper column titled Point of View many years ago. This is timeless, I think, in that farming and gardening are ever old and ever new. Thought I’d share it for a summer read,

Blessings!

            I have been doing my personal therapy this weekend. I have been spending time doing something that clears my head and renews my soul – I have been working in my garden.  I was digging up the vegetable garden, planting flowers, working on our new pond (another whole column I think), and spreading mulch. While my body aches, it is a good kind of pain, because you see, working in the soil is a healthy thing.

            People who plant gardens, be they flower or vegetable gardens, tend to be people who have a healthier, more realistic view of life.  Why do I say this?  Let’s look at what is involved in planting flowers.  First, there has to be an intention to do so, which involves planning and forethought.  Flower gardeners appreciate the beauty of color, and they usually have a desire to improve the looks of their home as well as their neighborhood.  That means that they care about what is going on around them and they want to be a part of making their environment just a little nicer.  Then there is the satisfaction they get by having their early Spring vision rewarded with emerging little plants.  Where there had been nothing but soil now bursts with very visible life. 

            Another noble aspect of gardeners is their desire to nurture life.  When you plant flowers or vegetables, you need to be prepared to nurture and protect the young plants from bugs and those ever-present rabbits.  This takes vigilance and care, and a real desire to see a tender and nearly helpless plant survive.  Gardeners will pay a price in both time and money to see their plants through the dangers of predators, disease and weather hazards.

            Vegetable gardeners have the added incentive and motivation of eating the fruits of their labor. Those vegetables taste better than anything in the world when they come from your own garden, partly because the gardener knows how hard he or she worked to get to that point.  Vegetable gardeners know too that they are not really saving money by growing their own vegetables, they are satisfying a rather deep-seated urge to care for themselves by growing their own food.

            Finally, all gardeners work in the soil partly because they like to work. They see physical work as healthy and good.  They don’t mind getting dirty, and in fact, probably enjoy being that close to the earth.  Stooping and sweating become acts of love which minister to their overall sense of well-being.  They are creating something, at the same time knowing that there are numerous factors, weather etc., which can wipe out their work. That, of course, is part of the challenge.  They know that they are ultimately not in control of what happens, but they willingly extend themselves in an uncertain venture for physical as well as spiritual rewards.

            This sounds a lot like life to me.  God bless the farmers and gardeners of the world.  They live in the rhythm of life.

All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one               Matthew 5:37

Have I not written thirty sayings for you, sayings of counsel and knowledge,
 teaching you to be honest and to speak the truth, so that you bring back truthful reports
    to those you serve?                                                                                                                                            Proverbs 22: 20-21

Sometimes people get confused about the difference between character and reputation. I am thinking that politicians are particularly susceptible to this, in that they spend a great deal of time crafting their reputation and electability. Reputation is the external part that they want/need to convey and protect.

Character is the internal part of us- our values and virtues that we must cultivate as human beings in order to live successfully and peaceably in this world and with ourselves. Many people spend a great deal of time cultivating and protecting a reputation that may or may not reflect their internal character.

Reputations may fluctuate over time. Sometimes reputations may take a hit when a decision of character needs to be made. None of us is perfect in this realm. Most people care about their reputation- and they should- because it is important to our standing in society.

However, we all need to spend more time in character development than in reputation management. When these forces conflict, when we need to decide whether to do the right thing or the popular thing, character is often vividly revealed.

The current political landscape has left many people deeply skeptical of our elected officials. We have seen positions taken on issues that are simply pandering to a certain political base. We do not truly know what many of those elected really believe and what they are willing to defend. We (they) just know what gets them elected. We are all flawed, but elected office, sadly, seems to bring out the worst in people. Again, this is not all politicians, but the landscape and the position make it an especially dangerous occupational hazard.

Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. What truth there is in that simple statement.

Prayer: Lord, your Spirit is the shaper and protector of character. Help us to yield to that prompting, Amen

O Lord, what a variety of things you have made!
    In wisdom you have made them all.     
    The earth is full of your creatures                                                                         Psalm 104:24

I recently watched a PBS show on NOVA about the James Webb Space Telescope (JWST) and how it was made. It was nearly 30 years in the making and planning of it, and the cost- well, let’s not talk about how much it cost.

Suffice it to say that the project was massive, a technological marvel, a monument to both the engineers and scientists that made this astronomical breakthrough. I am not able to explain the scope of the project, obviously, but it made me think of two things- the majesty of God’s creation, and the amazing gift of intelligence and curiosity that God made in mankind.

Those people pushed the envelope of technology, such as needing to plan for temperatures that could ruin the delicate machine, and how to protect its exquisite structure for the mission. The result was the ability to see into the past. Light from distant galaxies takes millions of light years to reach the earth. As the universe expands, galaxies are moving away from one another. The vastness of our universe defies explanation. It is too marvelous for words or comprehension.   

The Master Creator who made the heavens and earth also made the people who are trying to understand it. Both are marvels of God’s creation. My response?

Wow.

Prayer: Lord, your creation is too marvelous for mere words, Amen

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love                                                           I John 4:18

Today, April 24^th marks a sad and devastating anniversary. It was on this date in 1915 that the genocide on the Armenian people was begun by the crumbling Ottoman Empire. World War I was raging, and the Ottoman Empire was aligned with Germany, Austria-Hungary and Bulgaria as part of the Central Powers. They were opposed principally by France, the United Kingdom, Italy, Russia, and later the United States and much of the rest of the world (to a lesser extent).

There were many explanations of the Armenian genocide, mainly the fear of impending doom by the leaders of the Ottoman Empire. The Ottoman leaders feared that the mostly Christian Armenians would overtake the weakened Ottoman Empire, especially if the Empire was on the losing side in the World War.

Such general fear is the basis of so many irrational and inhumane acts that we witness. The Armenian genocide is recognized as perhaps the first modern genocide. Unfortunately, several more have followed in the 20^th and 21^st century. We like to think that as we evolve in our humanity and reasoning, and we make progress toward making life better for people, that such behavior would diminish. However, there remains this basic emotion of fear that can be weaponized in times of uncertainty.

I write this because we need to remember that the human race is capable of devouring itself. I also write this in order to maintain the witness that the devastation of the Armenian people should not be relegated to the dusty back pages of history. This cautionary tale reminds us that we are capable of incredible damage to one another.

Jesus came to earth as the savior of the people he loved- his entire creation. His message holds strong more than ever today- we must love one another, or we will fall prey to those who preach hate.

Prayer: Lord, remind us daily of your love for all people, Amen

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had Romans 15:5

  We conclude today with the last two roles of counselor. Once again, this is my personal take on such roles, and other counselors may name other roles.

The last two are “SafeSpace” and “Diagnostician.” The idea of “safe space” is just that. The counselor becomes a safe, non-judgmental person to whom the client can open up with his/her deepest hurts, fears, secrets, doubts, and transgressions.  The fact that the counseling session is confidential allows such interaction. The ability to simply bring into the open such deep feelings and thoughts is freeing in and of itself. Light breaks the power of darkness- those things which can hold us captive. And there is, of course the biblical axiom, “The truth shall set you free”. It does.

Finally, a counselor performs the role of diagnostician. Diagnosis is probably more an art than a science, although it is informed by rules and scientific research. In the world of insurance and third-party payers (such as Medicaid, for example), diagnosis becomes an essential tool.

It is important also as a way to communicate with other clinicians when a client is referred to others, and it is a way of explaining to the client that there is a name for what they are suffering, and that there are ways to successfully deal with it. It becomes an educational and clinical tool, not a label of failure. This is an important distinction which I typically share with my clients.

So there you have it my friends. I hope this little digression from typical posts has not been distracting.

Blessings!

The full list I gave earlier, in Part 1 is:

• Encourager
• Accountability Person
• Giver of Objective Feedback
• Resource Provider
• Tool Provider/Teacher
• Safe Space
• Diagnostician

Today I continue with some of the roles of a counselor. The other day, I discussed the roles of “encourager, “accountability person”, and “giver of objective feedback”. Today I will talk about a couple more of those roles.

The role of “resource provider” is important because we recognize that people need support from other people in their lives and in their community. I will also always discuss the interplay of physical health and mental health, and I will typically direct clients to make sure that they have had a recent physical exam. I want to rule out issues such as thyroid problems, diabetes, or any other neurological or hormonal basis for mood disorders.

Depending on the needs of the client, I may suggest a group like Celebrate Recovery DivorceCare, or GriefShare- nationally known groups that provide specific Christian support for specific issues. I will of course suggest AA, or Alanon, or Sexual Addiction groups for those in need of addiction recovery. The fellowship of a church is often a crucial support, as well as an accepting place to work out issues of spiritual growth. I will also suggest support groups for specific chronic illnesses, caregivers support groups- well the list goes on. The point is, part of my job is to recognize the needs of clients, research or be aware of community resources, and encourage their attendance as part of a treatment plan.

The last one to discuss today is “tool provider/teacher”. I use instruments such as the StrengthFinder test, temperament tests, handouts like “Fair Fighting Rules” or “Separation Agreements”, my “5 questions” for couples, naming just a few tools that I tend to employ. I often take on the role of teacher to explain to clients what exactly depression, or PTSD, or anxiety is. One of the tools I often give to clients is the “anxiety tool kit” to give some specific behaviors that can help deal with anxiety.

Tomorrow I will finish up the list of roles to better help explain the role of a counselor. That is all for now, blessings to you today!