When Stressed…Preen!

“Come to me, all who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest…”                    Matthew 11:28

Okay, now that is a weird title! However, there is truth to it- for birds and for humans as well. When birds are stressed, they often start preening their feathers, since this provides for them a constant repetitive movement that has an almost mesmerizing effect. It also releases endorphins, which help to calm the bird.

Indeed, preening is essential for birds -it is essential feather maintenance. It provides important oils for the feathers, and the beak movements clean dirt from them, as well as ridding feathers of nasty lice which are infection carriers.  

When we are stressed, we often engage in repetitive behaviors which provide us calm and security. Some people twirl their hair, some drum their fingers, some rock back and forth. Truly, there are dozens of behaviors which can provide some level of relief during stress. Many times, we are unaware of those movements because they have become so ingrained in us. Sharp poker players often look for the “tell” of a stressed opponent to get a competitive edge.

The point is, we often engage in little behaviors that reduce our stress, at least to a small degree. The adage action absorbs anxiety is true. When we are stressed or anxious, we naturally find a way to engage in an action that will help relieve that stress. Becoming aware of the things that are stress relievers is important. It is also important to understand that some of those stress relievers can become habits that are unwanted. Nail biting, hair twirling, skin picking, etc. to name a few, can cause actual bodily harm if overused.

So, just become aware of the things that you do when stressed. Often, those behaviors are innocuous, but sometimes, they can be indicators of a need for more help to deal with stress and anxiety.

Intentional prayer is an excellent behavior that calls out to the One who created us and therefore knows us best. Knowing that God loves us and cares for us is incredibly calming and reassuring!

Prayer: Lord, you have given us many ways to relieve stress, and we are grateful for your provision and care, Amen