I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14
One of the analogies I use with clients who are struggling with getting through an issue from the past, such as a divorce, infidelity, financial loss- whatever- is the one of driving a car. I suggest that they need to spend the majority of the time looking through the windshield rather than the rearview mirror. In other words, we need to spend most of our time looking ahead rather than where we have been.
There is indeed value in looking behind- the rearview mirror is important for our safety. However, we need to keep our eyes ahead on the road to navigate in the best way possible. Yes, we must look at the past for perspective, how we got to where we are. But we need to concentrate on the road ahead, the future, to maintain hope and direction.
It is a small and practical little analogy, but sometimes it helps people to stay focused on where the future lies, rather than past pain which can cripple us on the journey before us.
Prayer: Lord, give us healing from the past and hope for the future, Amen
Reflections of a Counselor 