Character

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves                                                                                                                                        Philippians 2:3

I recently had a discussion with a client about a man she was seeing, and she had some questions about the relationship. We discussed the differences in their temperament and their personal habits. Indeed, they have quite different temperaments, but such differences are not the key issues to be considered in relationships. Certainly, understanding temperament differences is important. Often, contrasting temperaments can be a source of attraction. Introverts are attracted to extroverts, and vice versa. The old saying of opposites attract is very often true.

Character, on the other hand is an essential determinant of a good, strong relationship. A person of character has recognized their own strengths and weaknesses and have embraced them. They are open to learning, and they value others in the relationship. When they are in a relationship, they seek the welfare of their partner.  More importantly, they recognize their dependence on God and his provision for their life. They are grateful for what they have, and do not seek to blame others for their own problems or mistakes.

Of course, this is just a thumbnail sketch of character, but it is a start to recognizing important traits that make relationships work.

Prayer: Lord, help us to recognize the importance of character in relationships, Amen