So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets Matthew 7:12
I was speaking with a client the other day about his relationship with his wife. He is in a good marriage, and the couple has some family challenges which they handle with grace and care. The husband told me that he often does not feel a great deal of warmth and empathy from his wife. He recognizes that she carries a big load in primarily taking care of the children, and also working a part-time job.
We discussed some ideas about enhancing communication, and he found that to be helpful. We later discussed the idea of modeling the type of behavior to her that he would like in return. Much of the communication that we truly pay attention to is non-verbal, as well as tone of voice when words are spoken. I have often said that the experience of warmth comes from effective non-verbal communication- smiles, eye-contact, and gentle touch.
The old concept of treating people the way we would like to be treated gives us a sense of control. We can actually reinforce the things that we would like to experience from others. We can be the model to others of what we expect from them.
Prayer: Lord, help us to be the examples of you in the world, Amen
Reflections of a Counselor 