What Do You Need?

And my God will supply all your needs according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus  Philippians 4:19

 One of the questions that I suggest for my couples counseling clients ask to one another is this: “What do you need right now”, or “what would you like right now”?

The answer could be anything- a hug, time alone, a back rub, silence, a good laugh, dinner at a new restaurant- you get the picture. It could be anything. The point of the interaction is to open up oneself to meeting the needs or desires of the other. Even the question is thoughtful and caring. Moreover, it gets each partner in the mindset of questioning to themselves- “What do I need right now?”, or “What would I really like right now?”

I am not talking about “I’d like to win the lottery”, or “I’d like the Cincinnati Reds to win the pennant” (though I would!). I am talking about small, practical stuff- things that are practical as well as doable right now or very soon.

Getting in touch with such thoughts is helpful, even important. We often don’t really think of these things consciously, and it is good to just get in touch with these practical things that might bring us a little joy.  

So, what do you need, or what might you like right now?

Think about it.

Prayer: Lord, you are the supplier of our needs and we are grateful, Amen