Look for the Best

 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things                                                                                    Philippians 4:8

“It’s all in what you are looking for”. That is what I tell my clients at times. If you are looking for reasons to see the good in someone, you can probably find it. On the other hand, if you are looking for reasons to be upset with someone, you can find that too. The question is, what will you decide to do? We have a choice in how we decide to look at others.

I am not saying to be naïve in how we interact with others. We live in a world of internet scams, phishing, and heaven knows how many other nefarious schemes out there to separate us from our money. There are plenty of bad actors in the world. But most people are not.

However, when it comes to relationships with people to whom we are close, it is a good practice to look for the best in them, not the worst. I talk to couples about ascribing best motives to their partner. Look for the best in the person you decided to trust.

You will likely find it.

Prayer: Lord, help us to extend grace to those around us, Amen