Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8
One of my guiding beliefs is that it is better to go toward the good rather than simply avoid the bad. This concept is applicable to many situations in life. The general principle is that we are energized by striving toward a goal rather than trying to avoid bad situations.
I recently discussed this concept with a client who is recovering from a divorce in a marriage that lasted over 30 years. This client needs to redefine herself, because for so many years, her identity was tied to her husband. It is understandable that this takes time for healing- but healing is possible as long as she can keep her eye on the prize ahead, and not get bogged down in past pain.
Of course she is grieving, and certainly she is in emotional pain, but there is hope ahead for her. As she looks to see her life in view of how God will use her in the future, she will be OK.
It is something that everyone in pain needs to hear.
Prayer: Lord, help us to keep our eye on the prize ahead, Amen.
Reflections of a Counselor 