“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7 (New Living)
One of the questions that I challenge my relationship couples to ask one another is to directly articulate what they need at the moment. A simple question, really, but it is important to get in touch with it ourselves, and then to ask for what we need. Some people seem to feel that their partner should KNOW what they need, implying that their partner can somehow read minds.
It is often a sort of cultural norm that we don’t directly ask for what we need. For some people, they do not ask because they may feel it is presumptuous to ask for something of another person. Some may feel embarrassed or unworthy to ask for what they need. Some people just find it hard to ask for help of any kind.
It does take some level of humility to ask for help. As I often tell my clients, humility is the beginning of wisdom. Indeed, humility is the beginning of growth and the path to a more peaceful way of living life.
Prayer: Lord, we know that we can ask you for what we need, and that you are faithful, Amen
Reflections of a Counselor 