But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh, and that I should bring the children of Israel out of Egypt?”
So He said, “I will certainly be with you. And this shall be a sign to you that I have sent you: When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you shall serve God on this mountain.” Exodus 3:11-12
I spoke recently with a client about her difficult marriage. She was very upset that her husband was not really paying attention to what she needs and asks of him. Her husband told her that he loved her, but his actions did not reflect a willingness to do things for her that he saw as “uncomfortable”. She told him that mere words do not help how she feels about being isolated and minimalized.
She very much wanted his approval, and she was frustrated that she cannot change the way he looks at her or their marriage. I suggested to the client that she could make changes that will help her rather than waiting for her husband to make changes. This is especially important because she does not have the ability to change his behavior. She can only change hers.
I certainly understand where this client was coming from. She was hurt and frustrated and she wanted things to change. The problem is that if there is going to be change, she is the one who can make the changes that will give her a sense of validation. First, however, she needs to see her own self-worth. It cannot be dependent upon her husband.
We often look for behavior changes in others that might make us feel better- validated, worthwhile, even loved. Yet, we have in our hands the tools to improve our own lives. When Moses met God at the “burning bush” and God told Moses that he would be the one to lead the Israelites out of Egyptian captivity, Moses quickly declined, saying that he did not have the ability for such a task.
God’s response was to tell Moses in no uncertain terms that he had, “all that he needed in his hand”- his shepherd’s staff. Read the story as I cited above in Exodus chapter 3, and you will see that God seemed to get frustrated with Moses and his lack of self- confidence as well as his lack of trust that God would cover him in whatever he undertook.
I think the lesson for me is this –
You have all that you need in your hand; trust God and use it.
Prayer: Lord, help us to see that you empower us to do the things that will give us assurance and hope, Amen