Feelings Change, Truth Remains

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.                                                                             II Corinthians 10:5

I was speaking with a client recently, and we were talking about her loss of confidence in herself. She had been in an abusive marriage and her ex-husband had undermined her confidence. She has been working hard these past few years as a single mom, and she had overcome some significant barriers to become the strong person she needed to be for her daughter.

 Now lately, as she spoke with him on the phone about visitation issues, she found that the discussion became somewhat conflictual, and the old lack of confidence came back. She felt weak and helpless- overwhelmed with her circumstances.

I challenged her with the words from II Corinthians 10:5- “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” Her anxiety had caused these negative thoughts from her past to defeat her at the moment. I told her that this anxiety produced the feelings of helplessness and lack of strength. It undermined her confidence. I reminded her of all that she had done, and continues to do, in order to overcome circumstances and to good care of herself and her daughter. “Feelings will come and go”, I said, “but truth remains”. She needs to take her thoughts captive, decide what is true, and not just accept a current feeling as being the truth. She needs to hold on to the truth- not the lies of her anxiety.  

Sometimes that truth needs to be reinforced by someone outside of ourselves, and this is what I tried to do as her counselor. I reminded her of the truth of who she really is. Sometimes we get caught up in negative self-judgments that are not true. We begin to feel helpless, unworthy, weak, etc.

So, my dear readers, take your thoughts captive and speak truth to those thoughts. Sometimes those negative thoughts are the result of anxiety and depression, and they do not accurately define who we are.

Sometimes, we need another person to remind us of the truth.

Prayer: Lord, thank you for reminders of the truth of who we are in you, Amen

One thought on “Feelings Change, Truth Remains

  1. Thank you John for this reminder, which is timely for me, as I’m involved with someone that can stir up feelings of insecurity, anxiousness and fear based on a pay of dysfunctional behavior and emotional trauma.
    I have the confidence that God has me in this position with this person now and I’m praying I will be a conduit of His Grace and mercy.
    I appreciate your writings so very much.


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